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Rancid takes out some information that he found very helpful. He tells Jelly Queen that first she needs to understand the dynamics of bad habits. He opens up his laptop and they read it together.
“Understanding the dynamics of bad habits
Do you know that sometimes a bad habit can be an unconscious declaration of defeat? The person who fails to achieve a certain goal in life might give himself the unconscious permission to do the bad habit. The person thinks that his life is already going in the wrong direction and so it wouldn’t make a difference if something else went wrong. This happens on the subconscious level in such a way that the person never notices that the desire to do the habit was just a declaration of defeat and not a will power issue.
A part of your wants the bad habit
In many cases a person can develop a bad habit because of a part of him wants to do the habit. When both the subconscious mind and the conscious mind disagree the subconscious mind usually wins. In other words, sometimes the subconscious mind feels like doing something that the conscious mind doesn't want to do. In such a case if the conscious resistance wasn't really strong then a bad habit could be developed. In such a case understanding this unconscious desire is crucial if you want to break that habit.” (Read more here)
Jelly Queen finds that very interesting. She never connected it with psychology.
Rancid hears the ice cream truck and jumps up to look for it. He asks Jelly Queen if she would like some and she nods her head yes. They take a quick break and then get back to the reading.
Let's continue with the next part of our story – Going over the methods
Start at the beginning – Oh no! What's happening to our Jelly Queen?